May 4, 2016

Saying No and Giving Your Best Yes

Hey, you. Yes, you. The you who is running on empty and spinning her wheels and giving all she’s got and then some. Yes, I’m talking to you. I want to tell you something…

…it’s OK to say NO. It is. Really, I promise.

It’s OK to say no to the things that don’t fill your tank, to the things that don’t bring you joy and that take you away from what matters most.

What Matters Most

If you’re reading this blog and you don’t know me very well, I’ll tell you a few things about my life so that you can put all of this into perspective. I’m a wife, mom to 3 kids (ages 9, 8 and 2) and a own a successful wedding photograph business. I also volunteer at my kid’s school when I can, lead worship at my church and I just opened a studio. I cook, I clean, I chauffeur, I do laundry, I help kids with homework 5 days a week. There’s ballet, musical theater class, garden club, chess club, industry events to attend, social media accounts to manage and a blog that always needs more attention than it gets. I do birthdays and holidays and a million other things JUST LIKE YOU. I rarely have time to see my friends, let alone date my husband or even just take a bubble bath.

It’s not OK and something has to give. Do you agree?

When you are saying “yes” to one thing, you’re saying “no” to another. I was recently asked to second shoot a beautiful wedding with a beautiful friend of mine. It was at one of my favorite venues and it sounded like a blast. I weighed every option and had to make the difficult decision that even though I didn’t have a wedding of my own on that date, I couldn’t join her. I have 3 weddings this month. 3 Saturdays that my children would spend without me. 3 lunches, 3 dinners around our new farm table and 3 bedtimes missed. Adding another had to be a no. I chose cooking with my husband and snuggling with my Littles on my one wedding-free weekend this month. That’s what matters most.

If you’re in over your head and just can’t imagine saying no to anything, at any time, I’d highly recommend this book. It’s phenomenal, and helped shape my entire decision making process for 2016. I’ve said NO countless times, so that I can give my family my best yes. I hope you’ll try it.



  1. Chelsea Schaefer

    May 4th, 2016 at 7:34 am

    Definitely needed to read this today! Great post

  2. Katie

    May 4th, 2016 at 7:38 am

    I’m so glad it was helpful to you, Chelsea!

  3. Carolyn Ryan

    May 4th, 2016 at 7:42 am

    This is very important.

  4. Katie

    May 4th, 2016 at 11:14 am

    It sure is 🙂

  5. Evelyn

    May 4th, 2016 at 7:47 am

    YES!!! I was just chatting with some biz friends about this the other day!

  6. Katie

    May 4th, 2016 at 11:15 am

    Such great conversation! We have to hold one another accountable in this 🙂

  7. Noelle

    May 4th, 2016 at 11:06 am

    Thank you for this! I really needed to hear it❤️

  8. Katie

    May 4th, 2016 at 11:15 am

    Love you!

  9. Christina Creiglow

    May 4th, 2016 at 1:33 pm

    Katie you are amazing! My beloved session was one of the best experiences. I felt totally comfortable and love that I now have photos that reflect my fierce inner goddess. Thank you, thank you, thank you!!! ✌

  10. Katie

    May 4th, 2016 at 1:46 pm

    Christina! Thank you for your comment 🙂 I love you, you fierce goddess!

  11. Jessica

    May 4th, 2016 at 8:49 pm

    Thank you! No is a word I need in my vocabulary. I miss my daughter & husband working wedding weekends… And can’t seem to say no to a photo shoot or anything else through the week. It’s hard. So thank you for opening my eyes!

  12. Katie

    May 5th, 2016 at 6:05 am

    I’m so glad this blog was useful for you. It’s so important to say no to other things so that we can say yes to our families. Go for it! Your business will still thrive, and your family will, too 😉

  13. Ashley Durham

    May 5th, 2016 at 5:34 am

    Girlfriend, I feel you so much on this!!! I’ve had to say “no” to several things, because I was spreading myself too thin. <3

  14. Katie

    May 5th, 2016 at 6:04 am

    Ashley YES, you were spreading yourself too thin. Keep up the good work of NO!

  15. Yuri

    October 16th, 2017 at 10:35 am

    beautifully said!

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